12 Steps

  1. We admitted we were powerless over the assault, the effects of the assault, and that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a loving higher power, greater than ourselves, could restore hope, healing and sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a loving higher power, as we understood that to be.
  4. Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves, the assault, and its effects on our lives. We had no more secrets.
  5. Admitted to a loving higher power, to ourselves, and to another human being our strengths and weaknesses.
  6. Were entirely ready to have a loving higher power help us remove all the debilitating consequences of the assault and became willing to treat ourselves with respect, compassion and acceptance.
  7. Humbly and honestly asked a loving higher power to remove the unhealthy and self-defeating consequences stemming from the sexual abuse.
  8. Made a list of all the people we may have harmed (of our own free will), including ourselves, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people where ever possible, except when to do so would result in physical, mental, emotional or spiritual harm to ourselves or others.
  10. Continued to take responsibility for our own recovery and when we found ourselves behaving in patterns still dictated by the assault, promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with ourselves and a loving higher power as we understood that to be, asking only for knowledge of HP’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other survivors and practice these principles in all our endeavors.